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9 Tips On How To Get A Japanese Girlfriend

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When a single foreign man comes to Japan, they often wonder what it’d be like to do date a Japanese woman.

Of course, they often discover that dating a Japanese girl/woman is much harder than they could imagine. It’s not just the language barrier that hinders them from having a successful relationship – it’s whole of things that keep them from being successful. It’s the cultural differences and no skills that also hinder them.

These men expect all kinds of things from the Japanese ladies but find themselves going home alone.

If you want to be successful in dating a Japanese woman, you need to forget all the notions you heard and seen in the movies and on TV. Those won’t do you any good at all.

It’s important to understand the real truths of getting a Japanese woman to like you and to win her over to become your girlfriend.

1) Realize What Kind of Japanese Woman You Want

If you’re going to date a Japanese woman, you have to understand what kind of woman you want. Of course, this applies to all cultures, but when you’re dating a culture that’s different than your own, you really need to understand this. Ask yourself what you’re looking for from her.

  • What type of personality are you attracted to?
  • Are you looking for someone who is funny and easy going or do you want someone who is dedicated and hardworking?
  • What kind of hobbies should she have?

Be sure to write these qualities down, as you’ll get a clearer idea of what it is you want from a Japanese girlfriend. It sounds easy enough to say you want to date a Japanese woman but it can be anything but easy.

2) Expand Your Horizons and Meet Several Japanese Women

Now, even though you have a list of qualities that you’re attracted to, you should always introduce yourself to many Japanese women. Sounds obvious, right? Remember, introducing yourself to another culture can be difficult. And, if you’re an introvert, it can be twice as hard to do.

Keep in mind that your list is a general set of qualities you are interested in. You may find a Japanese woman you are attracted to that meets none of those qualities. Don’t dismiss the idea of dating her because she doesn’t fall into the list.

3) Expand Your Social Circle

When it comes to impressing Japanese women, a large social circle that includes both yours and her cultures will make her feel more secure around you. Be sure that circle includes women you don’t have an interest in sleeping with. By surrounding yourself with people of all cultures, it shows the Japanese women that you are comfortable with all those around you in the foreign country.

4) Respond With Interesting Answers With Frequently Asked Questions

Most people, when meeting for the first time, ask the usual questions:

  • How old are you?
  • Where you from?
  • What job do you have?
  • Why did you move to Japan?
  • Are you interested in a Japanese girlfriend?

Just answering these basic questions with basic answers aren’t going to get you very far. In fact, it may get you nowhere. How do you answer them in an interesting way that keeps her interested in you? That’s the trick, right?

Rather than telling them, make it interesting by having them guess how old you are or what your occupation is. You could always tell them you came to Japan because you have a love affair with Mt. Fuji or something like that. You want off-the-wall answers that make them wonder who you are.

5) Learn The Language

It cannot be stated enough how important it is to learn the Japanese language. There are many Japanese women who have limited knowledge of the English language. An, there are many other Japanese women who have fully studied the language. If you’re going to live in a Japan, it’s a good idea to learn how to speak and read the language. If you do start to date a Japanese woman, she’ll be impressed that you took the time to learn the language.

Start with the basic conversational skills and expand your knowledge upon that. Once you’ve mastered as well as you, then you should start trying to read the language.

I learned Japanese before going to Japan with JapanesePod101.com. I tried half a dozen websites to learn Japanese, but JP101 is by far my favorite and I still use it today.

6) Learn About The Japanese Culture (Not Just About The Sushi and Anime!)

Who, even those who don’t live in the U.S. and Japan, know about anime and sushi? Chances are most people around the world know about these two things.

So, if you’re living in Japan, your knowledge about the Japanese culture and society needs to be expanded upon. Be sure to learn as much as you can.

You should be specific about the Japanese culture – check out the magazines or learn about the various celebrities coming from that region of the world. Learn about the fashion brands and the foods that are not sushi. It’s always good to expand your fountain of knowledge – even if you think of it as useless knowledge. After all, you never know what information will come in handy.

7) Be Mindful Of Your Appearance

Just as your appearance is important where you’re from in getting a girlfriend, so is your appearance when getting a Japanese girlfriend. Take pride in it. The Japanese culture sees grooming and fashion as something important in their culture. Be sure you take showers on a daily basis, look nice (shave, groom) and wear clothing that you can fit and have no holes.

If you need an example of how to look, consider using the Japanese make as your example. Most of them tend to be fairly well-dressed with a great wardrobe. You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg to get a good line of clothing, but you should spend some money on putting together a great wardrobe. Don’t be cheap here, but you don’t have to spend like you have all the money in the world either.

8) Create An Interesting Life For Yourself

You already take care of yourself physically. Now, you want to portray yourself as someone interesting. Whatever you do here, don’t lie. In fact, do what you can to show her that you are an interesting person.

Surround yourself with Japanese friends (male and female) and show her that you are interesting. Partake in something that relates to fitness (climb Mt. Fuji, for example.) Learn how to cook some Japanese recipes or visit places you’ve never been to before.

Take pictures to show your Japanese girlfriend that you’re having a good time and that you lead an interesting life.

9) Don’t Become The Funny American or English Guy

The last really important detail to be mindful of is not to become the Funny American or English Guy to her Japanese friends. Many foreigners become the center of attention to a Japanese woman, but all this attention isn’t getting you anywhere. All you are is just another American and, once the fame has worn off, you’re just no longer interesting. When you want a Japanese girlfriend, you need to avoid the stereotypes.

After you’ve met a Japanese girl that you truly have hit it off with, the best thing you can do is to ask her out on a date. Be sure to do your research here. Let her know what you have planned (Japanese ladies are all about knowing what’s going to happen ahead of time) and do something she may never have tried before. The best thing you can do is keep things interesting, so she’ll stay interested in you.